最近读完了崔娃的自传Born a Crime《生而有罪》，故事发生是在南非施行种族隔离制度(apartheid)及该制度被废除后不久的社会背景下。在当时严苛的种族隔离制度下，所有非白人（包括黑人，印度人和其他所有有色人种）被禁止和白人就读同一个学校，禁止学习相同的内容，禁止生活在同一个城市，禁止出现在同一个教堂，甚至禁止从事同一工种。崔娃的母亲是南非黑人血统，父亲是瑞士籍德国人，相当于白人父亲和黑人母亲非法地结合了。所以这就是为什么他为自己写的书叫“天生有罪”，因为他的出生就是父母“犯罪”的证明。
Where most children are proof of their parents' love, I was the proof of their criminality.
If you're black in South Africa, speaking English is the one thing that can give you a leg up. English is the language of money. English comprehension is equated with intelligence.
If you're looking for a job, English is the difference between getting the job or staying unemployed. If you're standing in the dock, English is the difference between getting off with a fine or going to prison.
这本书非常好读，叙事手法和语气就好像是在听崔娃讲脱口秀一样，你能去想象他的抑扬顿挫中折射出的生活中所经历的种种曲折。语言简明扼要(plain and concise)，善用口语化的表达(colloquialism)，少见生词和长难句。
In the white world, anytime my mother took me to a white church, we were the only black people there, and my mom didn't separate herself from anyone. She didn't care. She'd go right up and sit with the white people.
Respect?! You almost burned down our house. Respect? Oh, please! Earn your respect! You want me to respect you as a man, then act like a man!"
it was the best food she'd ever eaten, because it was something she had earned on her own. She wasn't a burden to anyone and didn't owe anything to anyone."
"Learn from your past and be better because of your past," she would say, "but don't hold on to it. Don't be bitter." And she never was. The deprivations of her youth, The betrayals of her parents, she never complained about any of it.
I was blessed with another trait I inherited from my mother: her ability to forget the pain in life. I remember the thing that caused the trauma, but I don't hold on to the trauma. I never let the memory of something painful prevent me from trying something new."
My mum raised me as if there were no limitations on where I could go or what I could do. When I look back I realize she raised me like a white kid-not white culturally, but in the sense of believing that the world was my oyster, that I should speak up for myself, that my ideas and thoughts and decisions mattered.
Everything I have ever done I've done from a place of love. If I don't punish you, the world will punish you even worse. The world doesn't love you. If the police get you, the police don't love you. When I beat you, I am trying to save you. When they beat you, they are trying to kill you.
Trevor! You look at me. You acknowledge me. Show me that I exist to you, necause the way you treat me is the way you will treat your woman. Women like to be noticed Come and acknowledge me and let me know that you see me. Don't just see me when you need something.
I don't regret anything I've ever done in my life, any choice that I've made. But I'm consumed with regret for the things I didn't do, the choices I didn't make, the things I didn't say.
We spend too much time being afraid of failure, afraid of rejection. But regret is the thing we should fear most. Failure is an answer. Rejection is an answer. Regret is an enternal question you will never have the answer to. "What if..." "If only..." "I wonder what would have..." You will never, never know, and it will haunt you for the rest of your days.
From an adult's point of view, I was destructive and out of control, but as a child I didn't think of it that way. I never wanted to destroy. I wanted to create. I wasn't burning my eyebrows. I was creating fire. I wasn't breaking overhead projectors. I was creating chaos, to see how people reacted.
Give a man a fish, and he'll eat for a day. Teach a man to fish, and he'll eat for a lifetime. 授人以鱼不如授人以渔。
She was unwavering（不屈不挠的） in the face of danger. That always amazed me. It didn't matter that there was a war on our doorstep.
I decided I’d rather be held back with people I liked than move ahead with people I didn’t know.